It is the subject of our times: “How do I listen to my heart?” Nowadays, our society seems to split up in two categories of people: on one hand, people who listen to their heart and, on the other hand, people who listen to their mind. The effect of this phenomenon is that heart-people can understand mind-people, but unfortunately not the contrary. As a consequence, mind-people feel themselves a bit tackled by the easygoing and emotional lifestyle of their fellows and, consequently, tag them as “crazy”. Read more
According to Eckhart Tolle in his book New Earth, the ego is the mental disease of our time and a lot of people are suffering from it. The ego generates the false self-perception of oneself, which makes unhappy. We are destroying ourselves, others and the environment around us.
You can recognize it by means of hate, resentfulness, anger, inner disorder, unhappiness, impatience, bad temper, haste, uptightness, envy, avarice, jealousy, fear and every other emotion that makes us unhappy. The ego turns out to be in the moment we identify ourselves with something we are not. People with a false self-perception of themselves think that they are their wealth, reputation, bank account and social status.
THE EGO COMPARES AND JUDGES
If the ego dominates you, then everything you see is compared and judged. As a consequence, you create your own world, where things and people are either good or bad. A world where your supposed happiness depends on the possession of things or people, on the social position or on people’s actions. This is to say, everything that is outside of yourself. You can be happy only if you do something or something happens.
WHAT DOES ‘EGO’ MEAN?
Ego means “I”. When we say “I”, we mean actually a deceitful, false image of ourselves, which we have created through an illusion. We establish our unreal identity through experiences and things we are made up of, for example possessions, skills and knowledge. The ego supplies you with a feeling of self-worth. This deceptive feeling of identity and “I” is the Ego: “I am what I own, what I can, what I know and the people I know.”
SINK IN THE EGO EFFECTS
Ego makes you addicted. I can only be happy if I have something or if something happens. It interferes with your real “I”. you can be long-term happy if you stay by yourself without thinking constantly. Everything you need is consciousness. Be aware of your ego and of your thoughts. In the moment you are thinking about your thoughts, you will be aware that there is more than just your thoughts. Consciousness. As long as you can enjoy every single day of your life, you have no reason to question your thoughts.
Be aware of the ego of people around you. If they do something bad, it is not them, it is their ego. They don’t know what they’re doing because they lost the control on themselves and their awareness. The ego lives through sorrows from the past, that scoops the feeling of self-worth and, as a consequence, it identifies with the victim role.
KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR EGO AND BE AWARE OF YOURSELF
An absolute book suggestion is “A New Earth – Awakening to your life’s purpose” by Eckhart Tolle. Tolle describes the false self-perception in all its facets. It is really a book of enlightenment to me, because I didn’t have any idea of how involving, subtle and expansive the ego could be.
This book has helped me to recognize my ego and to handle with it. A lot of what we wouldn’t like to have in mind can be dissolved just by looking at our thoughts. Through this process we can find our real self and discard the false one. This is not easy, since our ego is as clever as we are. Though, a steady consciousness helps a lot.
If you are up to realize yourself, then your whole life is going to change. The one who is going to realize himself has different priorities than other people. The most important part of the self-realisation in the growth of one’s own. He/she can create or build up something outwards, but this process is linked to a constant, interior development, as well.
The most important thing waiting for a self-realisator is:
Your focus shifts from the outside towards the inside. You don’t have to change the outside in order to be happy. You change yourself from the inside and, as a result, the outside changes, as well. To sum up, yourself, your life and your realization are your focuses.
You won’t need to please everybody and do things you really don’t want to. Your heart becomes very important to yourself because it shows you your way. As a consequence, your heart makes every single decision for you.
If something doesn’t make any sense for you, your heart is unhappy or it has a bad influence on you, then it does not suits you anymore. As a self-realisator your life has become precious to you and you want to live it at its best. In addition, you deal ultimately with some activities such as watching the TV, going out with friends, surfing on the internet, playing on the computer, reading the newspaper.
If you are realizing yourself and you are happy with your life, consumerism and distractions are going out of your focus perception automatically.
You are the centre of your existence, neither other people nor things. As a result, you won’t have time to be diverted from your feelings. On the way to your self-realisation you will understand that it is not that easy to go away from your feelings if you watch the TV or drink alcohol and not even if you numb or distract yourself.
In this way you are going to realize that your feelings are the most important instruments. They are part of yourself. They are neither to ignore nor to repress. Finally, you end up learning to accept them, to let them being and to feel them without thinking about them.
You are the centre of your life. You are there with your wishes, dreams, intentions, needs, aims, desires, visions and ideas. Feel everything that comes from your inside and accept everything. You should concentrate on yourself and your inside.